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In this episode, Martyna Sobiecka talks to Łukasz Budzisz, known as Mr. Corsetier, about the fascination with breasts, building women's confidence, the behind-the-scenes story of Bouduar's creation, the role of well-fitting lingerie, and how self-acceptance influences the way we view our own bodies.
Key findings from the interview
- Self-acceptance begins with consciously looking at yourself, not comparing yourself to others.
- Well-fitting underwear not only affects appearance but also comfort, posture, and confidence.
- A lot changes in your bust and body with age, experience, and life roles.
- There is no need to wear a bra all day; the body needs a rest.
- In the design of sexy lingerie, it is crucial to maintain sensuality without delving into vulgarity.
- Brand and product development requires listening to female customers, even when their opinions are critical.
What the conversation is about
This is a conversation about breasts, but not exclusively in an aesthetic sense. Martyna and Łukasz talk about emotions, complexes, coming to terms with one's own body, and how women view themselves at different stages of life.
In the second part, the conversation turns to more practical topics: lingerie design, customer needs, bodysuits for backless dresses, myths surrounding wearing a bra 24/7, and the development of the Bouduar brand. The topic also naturally arises regarding breasts as a symbol of femininity and the influence of underwear on daily well-being.
Key concepts
- Self-acceptance – the process of learning to look at one's own body in a gentle, realistic way.
- Tailor-made underwear – underwear tailored to specific measurements, needs, and body proportions.
- Open back bodysuit – a lingerie solution designed for backless dresses and outfits; see also collection of backless bodysuits.
- Underwear construction – the way of designing and sewing the model so that it combines aesthetics with functionality.
- Working with a mirror – a conscious exercise focusing attention on your own body and its strengths.
- Size selection – a key element of comfort and appearance of underwear; the website may be helpful Check your size.
List of topics of conversation
- [00:00:00] Introduction to the Naked DNA podcast and episode preview.
- [00:01:48] Where did Łukasz Budzisz's fascination with the female bust originate?.
- [00:05:04] The beginnings of Bouduar and the first collaborative projects.
- [00:07:23] Backless shapewear bodysuit.
- [00:09:13] How women's attitudes towards their breasts change at different life stages.
- [00:11:02] Insecurities, self-confidence and the role of the mirror.
- [00:12:58] Should you wear a bra 24 hours a day.
- Erotic lingerie, trends and the line between sexiness and vulgarity.
- [00:16:32] Product ideas and functional details in lingerie.
- [00:18:33] The influence of customer feedback on brand development.
- [00:20:30] A final message for women about breasts and self-acceptance.
- [00:23:02] End of episode.
Podcast experts / Interviewees
Martyna Sobiecka – host of the Naked DNA podcast and owner of the Bouduar brand. In the conversation, she focuses on both the emotional and practical dimensions of women's relationship with their breasts and lingerie.
Łukasz Budzisz – Mr. Gorseciarz, co-founder of Bouduar and a corset maker. He talks about the beginnings of his passion, the process of designing lingerie, and how lingerie can boost a woman's confidence.
Quotes from the conversation
Mirror. Authentically. We need to accept ourselves as we are.
Łukasz Budzisz
Good underwear is the first thing we see in the mirror, and it gives you a huge amount of confidence.
Łukasz Budzisz
No, we absolutely shouldn't wear a bra 24 hours a day.
Łukasz Budzisz
When I design something sexier, I always want to retain the sexuality and defend the design against vulgarity.
Łukasz Budzisz
The less we look at others and the more we look at ourselves, the stronger our self-confidence will be.
Łukasz Budzisz
Frequently Asked Questions
Where did Łukasz Budzisz's passion for lingerie design come from?
It all began very early on, when as a teenager he saw a black velvet half-corset in the window of a corsetry workshop. This initial infatuation grew into a lasting passion.
How did Boudoir come about the creation of open-back bodysuits?
The impulse was a specific stylistic need. Martyna needed a solution for a backless dress, and subsequent structural modifications led to the creation of a product that became an important part of the brand's offering.
Does wearing a bra 24/7 help to keep your breasts in better condition?
No. The conversation clearly states that the body needs a break from underwear, especially after many hours of wearing models with underwiring.
What helps women the most in building self-confidence?
According to Łukasz, working with a mirror, limiting comparisons to other women, and focusing on one's own strengths are key.
What is the significance of customer feedback for Bouduar?
Very big. The team treats them as fuel for product development, construction, and the entire brand, especially when they are specific and constructive.
Full transcript of the interview
Introduction to the episode
[00:00:00] Martyna Sobiecka:
Welcome to the Bouduar Naked DNA podcast. I'm Martina and today I invite you on a journey into the world of Bouduar - a place where beauty, elegance and passion meet professionalism.
In this podcast, I'll be talking to experts that our brand works with on a daily basis. We'll be sharing knowledge with you from areas that my company knows well, from corsetry to the world of beautiful lingerie.
If you're interested in the world of beautiful lingerie and inspiring conversations, you've come to the right place. I promise we'll deliver a healthy dose of valuable information that will broaden your horizons and help you delve into topics close to our brand.
I'm glad you're with me. If you haven't subscribed to my channel yet, I warmly invite you to do so. I'd also be pleased if you shared your opinion, because it's precisely thanks to this that we can create even more valuable content for you. If this has piqued your interest, let's get started.
Today's topic of conversation is breasts. More precisely: we will talk about the origin of our guest Łukasz Budzisz, also known as Mr. Corset Maker's, fascination with the female breast. We will talk about Łukasz's story, where his passion came from and how it eventually led to the creation of Bouduar, as well as the behind-the-scenes development of our brand and the different stages of a woman's life.
[00:01:35] Martyna Sobiecka:
Are you getting a bit stressed?
Łukasz Budzisz:
After ten years? Or maybe even after twelve, no longer.
Martyna Sobiecka:
Right then. I invited you here today, it's our first podcast, and I wanted to talk to you about where your passion for the female breast came from. How did it all begin? Is there a story connected to the moment you started to become so interested?
The beginnings of fascination and the first projects
[00:02:00] Łukasz Budzisz:
I can say it hit me like a comet. It started when I was still in primary school. I was walking past a corset workshop in Gdynia – one of the oldest, and back then it seemed to me, perhaps the only one in the Tricity.
Martyna Sobiecka:
Were there more of them then?
Łukasz Budzisz:
Yes, there were three. One in Gdańsk and two in Gdynia. I was lucky enough to get into the second, more modern one. In the jargon of the time, they still spoke of „parachutes,” meaning older designs made of inelastic materials, which really looked a bit like sails.
But as for my first fascination, it was this studio's exhibition. I saw a black, velvet half-corset there. That was my first infatuation.
I started going back there more and more often, until finally I dared to go inside.
Martyna Sobiecka:
And how old were you then?
Łukasz Budzisz:
Fourteen.
Martyna Sobiecka:
That's actually very early.
Łukasz Budzisz:
I start everything quickly. I've always known how to get stuck into something. First there's curiosity, and then comes the courage to get serious about it. I've never lacked that courage. Once I stepped into that workshop, I told myself there was no turning back.
Martyna Sobiecka:
Do you remember your first project?
Łukasz Budzisz:
Yes, I still have it. It was a pink lace corset. Actually, there were two designs, because I was working on several things at once from the beginning.
One was made of leopard-print velvet, inspired by a Spice Girls music video. The other was simply pink and lacy. Those were my first two designs, and then things really took off.
The Beginnings of Boudoir
[00:05:04] Martyna Sobiecka:
Do you remember how our story with Bouduar began? I'm curious about your perspective. How do you remember it? How did we even come up with this idea?
Generally speaking, this idea was transforming all the time. At first, it was a dressmaking studio combined with a hairdressing salon, and only later did it become more of a corsetry space.
Łukasz Budzisz:
Knowing our history, it was you who started it. You came with a ready idea, and I just said, „Okay, let's do it. Let's do it.”.
At first, the vision was unclear, but eventually, we got the chance to prepare a show during the gala at the amber fair in Gdańsk. It was probably one of our biggest challenges at that point.
Martyna Sobiecka:
Yes, I remember. And also the costumes for „Got Talent”. Those were probably the two things I remember most as our big challenges.
Łukasz Budzisz:
I remember it like that too. I'm just wondering which came first – the show or „Got Talent”.
Martyna Sobiecka:
I think it’s a show. Recently I was looking back at photos and I saw you from that period.
Łukasz Budzisz:
Yes, indeed. It might have been a bit later. The show was probably in March. Nevertheless, I remember the gala most strongly, because it later had its summer remake and then Bouduar clearly started operating as a brand creating beautiful lingerie.
How a backless bodysuit was created
[00:07:23] Martyna Sobiecka:
Exactly. I also remember how our story with bodysuits began, when you prepared the first bodysuit for me for my sister's wedding. I'd always dreamed of a dress with a very open back, and since I don't have a very large bust, I wanted something underneath.
I remember that black bodysuit you prepared for me. It didn't hold as well as it should have then, but looking back, the idea itself was very good.
Łukasz Budzisz:
Yes, there was still a lot of technical work to perfect it afterwards – materials, semi-finished products, construction. It was a long road to a perfect product.
Martyna Sobiecka:
But we have it and the clients are really pleased with it. They can wear open backs and wear such bodysuits under wedding and evening dresses. I'm pleased with that too, because I use it myself.
Łukasz Budzisz:
The idea here was the principle of holding itself. Since we lose support on the back, we have to gain it elsewhere. Hence the idea to transform this solution into a bodysuit.
We wanted to create something that could be worn repeatedly, in many styles. Something versatile and timeless.
Breasts and body at different stages of life
[00:09:13] Martyna Sobiecka:
Let's move on to another topic. What differences do you see in the approach to breasts at different stages of women's lives? Our bodies change, our roles change. First, we are girls, then women, then wives, lovers, mothers. I'm curious to know how you see it.
Łukasz Budzisz:
I think that as teenagers, we're not even at the stage of truly discovering our bodies. For me, the peak of a woman's body and self-awareness is around the age of forty.
Then you can really see which direction we're heading, what we can do with our bodies, and often we stop being so critical of ourselves. We also have more resources – including financial ones – to look after ourselves.
The teenage years are the hardest. Then, when we're in our twenties, we step into the roles of wives, lovers, mothers, and these are the first big changes. And when a woman becomes a mother, she also often doesn't have much time to focus on herself.
That's why I believe that around the age of forty, there's a peak in self-awareness. It's a moment when you can truly look after yourself and get a lot of well-being out of it.
Complexes, self-confidence and the role of the mirror
[00:11:02] Martyna Sobiecka:
Moje rady dla kobiet borykających się z kompleksami związanymi na przykład z biustem obejmują:* **Akceptacja własnego ciała:** Spróbuj zaakceptować to, jak wyglądasz. Twoje ciało jest unikalne i piękne. Pamiętaj, że ideały piękna są często nierealistyczne i sztucznie narzucone przez media. * **Skupienie się na zaletach:** Zamiast koncentrować się na tym, co ci się nie podoba, spróbuj docenić inne części swojego ciała i swoje cechy. Być może masz piękne oczy, wspaniały uśmiech lub jesteś bardzo inteligentna i zabawna. * **Dbanie o siebie:** Dbaj o swoje zdrowie fizyczne i psychiczne. Regularne ćwiczenia, zdrowa dieta i wystarczająca ilość snu mogą poprawić twoje samopoczucie i pewność siebie. Zajmij się tym, co sprawia ci radość i relaksuje. * **Odpowiednia bielizna:** Czasami odpowiednio dobrany biustonosz może zdziałać cuda, jeśli chodzi o komfort i wygląd. Dobrze dopasowana bielizna może sprawić, że będziesz czuła się lepiej we własnym ubraniu. * **Unikanie porównań:** Nie porównuj się do innych kobiet, zwłaszcza do tych prezentowanych w mediach społecznościowych czy magazynach. To, co widzisz, często jest idealizowane i nie odzwierciedla rzeczywistości. * **Rozmowa z zaufaną osobą:** Porozmawiaj z przyjaciółką, członkiem rodziny lub partnerem, którym ufasz. Czasami samo wypowiedzenie swoich obaw na głos może pomóc. * **Profesjonalna pomoc:** Jeśli twoje kompleksy znacząco wpływają na twoje życie i samopoczucie, rozważ rozmowę z psychologiem lub terapeutą. Mogą oni pomóc ci zrozumieć źródło tych uczuć i wypracować strategie radzenia sobie z nimi. * **Edukacja:** Dowiedz się więcej o swoim ciele i o tym, jak jest zbudowane. Zrozumienie naturalnych różnic w wyglądzie może pomóc w zaakceptowaniu siebie. * **Praktykowanie afirmacji:** Regularne powtarzanie pozytywnych stwierdzeń o sobie, takich jak "Kocham swoje ciało" lub "Jestem piękna taka, jaka jestem", może pomóc w zmianie negatywnych wzorców myślowych. * **Skupienie się na działaniu i osiągnięciach:** Buduj pewność siebie poprzez realizację swoich celów, rozwijanie pasji i skupianie się na tym, co potrafisz zrobić, niezależnie od wyglądu.
Łukasz Budzisz:
Mirror. Authentically. We have to accept ourselves as we are. No one will come and tell us that everything is okay. You have to grow up to that.
Avoiding yourself is not a solution, because it will come back to you anyway. Another interesting way to get to know yourself is made-to-measure tailoring. Simply taking your measurements is already very beneficial, as you suddenly begin to understand your proportions and body.
We build this self-awareness pretty much all the time, every day. That's why I say you can have everything, but good lingerie is that first glimpse we see in the mirror.
Even if someone avoids looking at themselves naked, they still see themselves in their underwear later. And well-fitting underwear gives a huge amount of confidence. It's a really important aspect.
Do you need to wear a bra all the time
[00:12:58] Martyna Sobiecka:
In preparation for our chat, I found this interesting tidbit. Someone claimed that to keep breasts in the best possible condition and prevent sagging, one should wear a bra 24 hours a day. I'm curious to hear your thoughts on that.
Łukasz Budzisz:
I'll say this: as a designer and future medic – no. Absolutely not. I think we should actually avoid underwear at certain times, when it comes to comfort and health.
We can't be sweating in synthetic materials all the time. It's simply unhealthy. Should we sleep in a bra? Let's not kid ourselves – no.
If a bust is very large and someone needs support at night, lighter solutions can be sought. It's possible to experiment. But the answer to this question is one: no, we should not wear a bra all day and all night.
Martyna Sobiecka:
So we're telling our listeners that we don't wear a bra all the time and give our bodies a rest.
Łukasz Budzisz:
Yes. And I would even recommend that after a hard day's work, you take off everything, especially an underwired bra. It sits on us for many hours.
It's good to take off your bra, refresh the skin under and around it, simply let your body rest before moving on to the rest of your day at home.
Erotic lingerie and the boundary of good taste
[00:14:54] Martyna Sobiecka:
Now, I wanted to bring up the topic of erotic lingerie, as we're slowly entering a new sphere. I'm curious if you see new trends when designing such lingerie and what you think is most fashionable in sexy lingerie today.
Łukasz Budzisz:
I think that not everything changes so quickly in this area. There are certain images and inspirations that last for a long time. For me, the vision of femininity that is sensual but not overdone is important.
When I design something more sexual or daring, I always want to retain as much sexuality as possible, while at the same time protecting the design from vulgarity.
This is a constant guideline in all my projects. And above all, I don't want to make a caricature of the female figure, which unfortunately is sometimes seen in ready-made solutions on the market.
Functional details and product ideas
[00:16:32] Martyna Sobiecka:
We also had various ideas for small details that would make this lingerie stand out from the competition. There are many companies that beautifully dress the female body, but perhaps you could give us a little insight and tell us about these solutions.
Łukasz Budzisz:
I'm naturally a person who likes practical solutions. I like things that make life easier. That's why I think an extra little pocket in a bodysuit or bra is a great place to stash things – even if it's just for taxi money when you're getting home late at night.
Martyna Sobiecka:
So, are we talking about security now as well?
Łukasz Budzisz:
Yes, but also about convenience. Such a hidden pocket can be used simply according to your needs. This is a response to real behaviour by women, because many of them already store various small items in their bras anyway.
This type of storage is close to the body, so we feel like we have something with us. A well-designed pocket gives a sense of security and comfort.
How customer reviews develop a brand
[00:18:33] Martyna Sobiecka:
And how do customer reviews influence your design and changes at Bouduar? Because time and again, both positive and negative feedback have led to our growth.
Łukasz Budzisz:
There is no growth without listening to comments – both good and bad. I even often listen more to the critical ones, because perhaps that's where the good answer lies.
Of course, the positive ones are pleasant to hear, but sometimes a negative opinion motivates me more to review something two or three times and extract additional value from it.
Martyna Sobiecka:
Yes, positive feedback is also very important. It lets us know we're heading in the right direction. Every good review gives you wings, but constructive feedback is the most valuable.
Especially as a lot of things are happening on social media today and it happens that even people who have never held the product in their hands give their opinion.
Therefore, I want to emphasise this: every client's opinion is worth its weight in gold to us. Nowadays, it's very difficult to advertise and grow, so if you can, please leave reviews. It would mean a lot to us.
A message for women: less comparison, more self-awareness
[00:20:30] Martyna Sobiecka:
Lukasz, this is my last question for today's interview. What is your message for women? How can they better look after their breasts and feel more confident in their own skin?
Łukasz Budzisz:
Mirror. Just a mirror. Everything begins with acceptance.
Martyna Sobiecka:
But how do you achieve that self-acceptance? Because the very moment of looking in the mirror is one thing, but it's also about rearranging things in your head. Around us, there are countless images of women who look beautiful, and we compare ourselves to them. This really strips away our confidence.
Łukasz Budzisz:
That's precisely why I go back to the mirror. The more we look at other images – especially those that are perfect, retouched, or heavily edited – the harder it becomes for us to accept ourselves.
The more we truly see ourselves, the more we will accept ourselves. The less we look at others and the more we look at ourselves, the stronger our self-confidence will be. This cannot be bypassed.
You need to have a positive approach towards yourself, not just a critical one. Fewer critical words, more acknowledging of good things. That's real work with a mirror: I have nice arms, I have nice thighs, there’s something good in me.
There isn't a person who has everything wrong. We can convince ourselves of that if we get wound up, but if we start looking for positives and pay less attention to others, a lot will change.
Today we are overstimulated, constantly looking at external things, and spending too little time on ourselves. And time for ourselves really makes a difference. We come home, take off the things from the whole day, freshen up, look in the mirror, and tell ourselves: now it's time for me. And then there's no need to scroll through more images that demotivate us.
Martyna Sobiecka:
In that case, we recommend a mirror. Thank you very much for joining us today. It was a pleasure to meet you after all these years – I'm not joking.
I hope we can talk again on another topic sometime, as I think there are many really interesting threads that we can explore together.
Łukasz Budzisz:
Thank you very much.
Episode ending
[00:23:27] Martyna Sobiecka:
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Summary
This conversation shows that the topic of breasts goes far beyond fashion or aesthetics. It is also a story about one's relationship with their own body, about maturing towards self-acceptance, and about daily practices that can enhance a woman's confidence.
An important thread is also the role of well-designed lingerie – not only as a styling element but also as a tool for comfort, support, and well-being. From the perspective of the Bouduar brand, the conversation combines design experience with attentive listening to women's real needs.
