The bust is a subject that always stirs emotions - each of us has stories, expectations and, unfortunately, sometimes complexes about it. As Lukasz Budzisz, designer and founder of the Bouduar brand, said: „The most important thing is the mirror. You have to accept yourself as you are.” And there is something in that! Self-confidence starts with looking at yourself gently, with understanding. I thought it was worthwhile today to lean into how we can take care of our breasts, and by extension ourselves - whatever our bust size.
History of fascination: where did the passion for breasts come from?
Łukasz Budzisz, known as Mr Gorseciarz, once told how his fascination with women's breasts and lingerie design began. He was fourteen at the time, when he was walking down the street in Gdynia and suddenly saw something he had never seen before - a half-corset on display. „That was my first fascination.” – He said with such a slight smile and nostalgia. „I saw it and started coming there more and more often.”
That one memory stayed with him for a long time, and then that first fascination turned into a real passion for creating lingerie that would work like a magic wand - women would finally feel comfortable in their own skin.
Underwear as a means of body acceptance
Luke explains that in designing lingerie, he is all about making a woman feel sensual and confident, but still keeping it classy. „The vision that will always be present when I design something sexier is to preserve sex appeal and defend against vulgarity.”- he explains. Underwear should give us confidence and allow us to feel beautiful, but without a defiant effect - just comfortable and elegant.
Busts and life stages - how are our attitudes changing?
Our approach to the bust has evolved over the years, which is only natural. As Luke says: „At 15, we didn't even discover our bodies. I think the peak of the female body is really at 40.” These words capture the process perfectly - when we are younger, we are often full of complexes. A bust too small here, a bust too big there, and that's not ideal - there's always something that could be „better”.
Bust in youth - constant comparison to others
When we're younger, so around our twenties, we heavily compare ourselves with others. We are constantly scrolling through social media, looking at pictures of models and influencers. As Luke pointed out: „The less we look at others and the more we look at ourselves, the more we build our confidence. It's natural.” When we are young, it is often difficult to break away from this comparison, and this only leads to growing complexes. It is only with time, as we mature, that we begin to accept and appreciate our bodies.
Motherhood - when the bust has other tasks
Later, during motherhood, our approach changes again. The bust becomes more functional - we are focused on other tasks and our body serves a new purpose. We stop caring about how we look every second, because there is not enough time for that. As Luke says: „When we look at ourselves as mothers, we start to see that the body can play different roles. And that's a beautiful thing.”
Bust and self-acceptance - working with a mirror
One simple but really effective way to accept your bust is to work with a mirror. Luke Budzisz explains that looking at yourself and seeing the advantages, rather than the disadvantages, is a key part of building self-confidence. „Mirror. Authentic. You have to accept yourself as you are.” There is a lot of truth in this - sometimes we just need to take a moment longer to look at ourselves and appreciate what we see, rather than focusing on the imperfections.
Mirror exercise - how to start accepting yourself
It may sound a bit strange, but an exercise like this - looking at yourself and looking for your strengths - really works. Instead of criticising straight away, it's worth thinking about: „Ok, maybe my bust isn't like the cover, but it's still my bust and it's special.” Budzisz adds: „There isn't a person who has it all wrong.” It's true - we all have something beautiful, we just sometimes don't notice it because it's easier for us to see what we don't like.
Find the beautiful in you
It could be the shape of your breasts, nice arms, strong legs - whatever you consider to be an asset. Luke notes that this kind of work on self-acceptance helps us to find our own uniqueness and not to worry about external pressures. At the end of the day, each of us is different and that's the most beautiful thing.
Is it worth sleeping in a bra? We dispel the myths
There are a lot of myths around the bust, especially about underwear and its impact on health. Luke, as a breast specialist, makes it clear: „As a corset designer and bust specialist, I absolutely do not recommend sleeping in a bra.” According to him, our body needs a rest from underwear and wearing a bra around the clock can lead to discomfort.
Bust rest
If you have larger breasts and need support, find a comfortable overnight solution, but in general, avoid wearing a bra 24 hours a day. Luke advises: „After a hard day at work, take everything off, especially the underwire bust. It sits on us for a few hours or even a few weeks.” We all experience it sometimes - a breath for the skin and breasts is sometimes the best thing we can give ourselves.
Bust and fashion - how does well-fitting lingerie make us feel?
Nothing lifts the mood like a well-chosen underwear. One that fits, looks good and makes you feel more confident. Luke stresses that seeing a perfectly fitting bra right after a shower makes you feel comfortable. „Good underwear allows you to put everything on,” he says, which translates into how we feel.
Luke particularly points out that when designing lingerie, it is extremely important to strike a balance between class and sex appeal. It's about making it sensual, but without it boiling over and being overdone. In his own words: „It's about making sure there's a line between sex appeal and vulgarity.” This allows each of us to feel beautiful without overstepping the boundaries of good taste.
And what about when it comes to accepting your bust? For those of us who sometimes have complexes, Luke has a simple piece of advice: a mirror and a positive attitude. „Mirror. Authentic. You have to accept yourself as you are.” Instead of constantly comparing ourselves to others, it is worth trying to see the beauty in what we have. A little exercise like this helps - looking at yourself in the mirror and looking for your strengths. It's such a first step to liking yourself.
Lingerie as a way to feel feminine
A perfectly fitting bra or corset can really give us confidence and lift our mood for the day. As Luke says, underwear It is, after all, such our second skin - it can influence how we see ourselves. When we wear something that makes us feel feminine and beautiful, it immediately translates into other things in our lives.
How to love your bust?
In the end, Luke has a simple piece of advice: a mirror and a positive attitude. „Mirror. Authentic. You have to accept yourself as you are.” Instead of comparing yourself with others, it is better to look at yourself and see your own beauty. Each of us is unique, and looking at yourself through the prism of your own qualities is the first step to liking your bust.
Key to self-acceptance - look less at others, more at yourself
Luke emphasises that „The less we look at others and the more we look at ourselves, the more we build our confidence.” Social media often makes us feel inferior by comparing ourselves to others. But the fact that each of us is unique is our advantage.
Summary: Bust - beautiful as it is
Bust size, shape or appearance - none of this should define our worth. As Luke says, accepting one's body is a process that starts with a positive attitude and looking in the mirror regularly.
Well-fitting lingerie, taking a break from bras at night and finding what we like about ourselves are small but important steps to building confidence. Let's remember that a bust is beautiful just the way it is - no matter what size it is. And that is something each of us can and should appreciate in ourselves.
